More FAQ-ING fun from Magick As F*ck
How do I "tend" to a candle while it's burning?
Answer: Tending means checking on the candle energetically while it burns and adjusting as needed.
When you need to evaluate for a tending:
Someone has a lot of resistance reflected in the candle or the surrounding energy.
The manifested reality appears to be strongly counter to the desire.
The person has strong mental structures that keep recreating resistance.
You see the flame behaving strangely.
You intuitively feel something is off.
How to tend:
Read the candle's current state
Hover your left hand over it.
Feel what's happening.
Ask: “What is the resistance that's emerging right now?"
Do subconscious work on yourself (if it's your candle) or guide the other person to do it
Why do I really want this?
What am I afraid of?
What do I really need?
How does this work failing protect me?
If this work was successful, where would I feel unsafe in my life?
Recast the energy
Build up the corrected energy again.
Breathe it back into the candle.
You'll notice the flame behaves completely differently immediately.
Example from class - Mother/daughter reconnection:
I was helping a mother reconnect with her 20 year old child who wasn't talking to her. The mother kept texting and texting, getting nothing back.
When I tuned in, the child felt judged and rejected. The irony: the mother carried similar wounding, so it was being reenacted.
The resistance was that the mother didn't feel she deserved to reconnect—she was violently punishing herself inside with a blind spot to it.
While reading the burn, I kept calling in the vision of her and her daughter holding each other with pure love. I was projecting that visual and feeling into the candle as a gift: 'Here we are. This is a gift. You can receive it or not.'
I had to do this tune-up maybe 5 times over the seven-day candle. The candle was tumultuous and went out in 4 days instead of 7. An hour before I had to move and extinguish it, she got a response from her daughter after a month and a half of silence.
What about consent? Isn't doing magic on someone else without asking them invasive?
Answer: This is about ethics, which will be covered in depth, but here's the core principle:
The question to ask yourself: “Am I trying to control the will of another? Am I trying to force something upon another? Am I trying to bypass consent?"
If yes to any of these: STEP BACK. Don't do it.
Daniel’s Admission: “I have made that mistake before by bullshitting myself. Really have the discipline—please do not bullshit yourselves."
How to work ethically with healing for others:
Option 1: Check with their Higher Self: Connect with the person's Higher Self (their highest security system) and ask permission. If you get a no, respect it completely.
Option 2: Work with the cord between you: If there's a relationship that needs healing, you can work on YOUR side of the connection without forcing anything on them.
Option 3: Send energy to the space around them: I send the energy to the space around them with the intention that they could choose to use it or not. I am very sincere in how I sent that energy.
The key principle: We are going to be working with healing. We are not going to be forcing our wills upon others. We'll use very meticulous wording and as much conscious awareness and safety as we can.
Can I work with herbs, oils, and dressing candles? How does that fit in?
Answer: Absolutely—this is part of the artfulness of magic.
When to use ingredients:
Your associations with certain ingredients are critical because they help you generate the highest quality of energy.
Example - Love spell:
Red roses (specifically associated with love)
Cinnamon (wealth and activation)
Corn silk (also abundance)
Cacao oil (heart opener for most people)
You can also get a strong cacao oil, put it in your nostrils, breathe it in, and let it help you generate the love energy in your body, then push that energy into the candle.
Dressing candles:
You can:
Sprinkle herbs onto the candle.
Sprinkle around the candle.
Create artistic/beautiful arrangements around the candle.
Drink tea made from the ingredients while creating the candle.
Smell/use them to create the energy, then charge the candle with that energy.
Important note: When you're starting out, look for inspiration for ingredients that will help you craft the spell. Your relationship with these ingredients is what makes them powerful, not just some universal 'this herb always means this’ idea.
For carved candles: When you can remove a candle from a jar, you can carve sigils (symbols) into it, pour oil into the carved lines, and decorate with incense, colored glitter, or herbs.
What are sigils and should I use them?
Answer: Sigils are symbols that represent an energy—they're like macros/shortcuts for magic.
Why use sigils:
Efficiency.
Can be charged over time and reused.
Can mark energy on objects permanently (tattoos, company logos, etc.).
Can be fed and developed as their own "altar piece".
Traditional sigils: You'll find elaborate systems online (Kabbalistic, Solomonic, etc.) that look like "Hebrew alien code." These are old, powerful magicks — but be careful. You could be calling something you don't understand with costs you're not aware of.
The safe sigil technique taught in class:
Choose one word (in your primary language)
Example: LOVE
Remove all vowels and duplicate consonants
LOVE = L, V (remove O, E, and one L)
Connect the remaining letters in one continuous line
Draw L connected to V in a way you can remember.
Make it decorative or meaningful to you.
Charge the sigil:
Breathe in and call in the feeling you want (love).
Breathe out while drawing the line.
Repeat until you can draw it automatically.
Test it:
Walk away, shake off.
Come back and draw the symbol.
The energy should come right back to you like you activated a computer macro.
More ways to mark a candle with a sigil:
Carve into candles.
Draw on candle jars with permanent marker.
Create for one session or empower and refine over time.
Use it to help others or yourself.
How do I dispose of candles after the spell? Does it matter?
Answer: Disposal varies based on the type of spell and your creative expression of the energy. Here’s a few ideas.
GROWTH SPELLS:
Put remains in your garden.
Plant something with or around it.
Energy goes into earth to grow.
DESTRUCTION/CLEARING SPELLS:
Smash to pieces.
Bury with intention: "This energy returns to earth to be decomposed and turned into new soil, new life".
Use doorway threshold: Open your front door at sunset, smash the candle in a bag under the doorway arch (symbolizing exit), then take it out and trash it.
RELEASE WITH EXPLOSION OF ENERGY: In Hawaii, I would take candles and smash them against metal trash cans like I was pitching in baseball. The satisfaction of the throw, the smash, the sharp percussive sound and explosion freed the rest of the energy from the candle out into the universe.
WATER CLEANSING METHOD:
Put broken candle in a thick plastic bag.
Blast it with a hose.
Intention: "The water is washing off heaviness, going into earth to be transformed".
Put in another bag and dispose.
Water clears and cleanses, seeps into earth to work with natural flows.
FOR APARTMENT DWELLERS:
Go 2 blocks away and toss it in a dumpster.
If you want energy to ripple out, smash it inside the dumpster.
You can also find a crossroads for its metaphorical use, for disposal (traditional method).
Important note: Everything I share with you is connected to a structure of ideas and systems. The ultimate goal is you grasp these ideas and systems and apply your art, and bring your heart and soul to it. It's really about the energy and approach you bring that will make this “your magick”.
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